Should I still be her friend even though she betrayed me b/c of my sexuality?

A friend of mine who I go back about 11 years with snitched on me to my mom about my sexuality. This was after this "friend" claimed she would love me and be there no matter what since I've been there for her through things. My mother already knew about me being gay, but things were quiet between my mom and I (which is how I wanted it since she doesn't accept this) until my friend called her in January b/c she was "concerned" about me. Then proceeded to tell my mom things that were on my Facebook and Myspace pages. My mom made me promise not to say anything to the girl, and I didn't, but I didn't look at her the same and barely talk to her now. I said that I would, however, be cordial for the most part, and still keep in touch w/her and her family (b/c her daughter absolutely loves me), but I just wouldn't tell her as much as I had, since I can't trust her like I once thought. I know this question pretty much answers itself, but I'm trying not to be so evil this time.

Should I still be her friend even though she betrayed me b/c of my sexuality?
Maybe she was not your friend to begin with. Look up the definition of Friend, read it several times. Then, look up definitions of words you find, in that definition, to make sure that you understand all of them. Many words have several meanings, unless we understand all of them, we do not understand the word. Words like Friend, Love, affection, affinity, have very important meanings we need to know...





Years ago I thought that I was in love with someone, they said they loved me, but did not treat me like they did. After doing a search with the word love like this, realized they really did not Love me... Words like friend are used too commonly today, without consideration of what the word REALLY means.





Most think they know, but those they call friends are acquaintances, not friends. You can trust friends. They care about you in spite of habits or behavior they may not like, and you can _always_ trust a true friend. They will give you anything they have if you need it, even if it deprives them of something they need... If we tell acquaintances secrets, then it is our responsibility because they told another.





Friends Love you, and would never betray you. They may come to you, and tell you what they think is best for your own good. They will do that, even if you do not agree. But, a true friend wil never betray you or tell another anything you told them in confidence. BUT, if you are doing something which is dangerous to your health or well being, and they talk to you about it. Then you persist in doing something which is life threatening, they should tell your mother, after giving you a chance to do so... Some parents have turned their children into the Police for using substances which could endanger their lives... If they do not, they do not love their child, enough to protect their lives. Even if it means they go to jail, it must be done.





NO ONE can tell you what is best to do. Only you know all aspects of the circumstances. It is your responsibility to make the decision if they are a friend or not, when you consider YOUR behavior, and if it is possibly dangerous to you or your life.





Friends can be trusted, if THEY know the true meaning of friendship. If you look up these words, and decide friendship has a different meaning than you thought, you may realize they are, or are not a friend. If you believe a friend does not truly understand the word, then discuss it with them before making a decision. Find out WHY she went to your mother, here reasoning, etc...





Then, there are some people, even friends who can not be trusted. They are out of control of their behavior or something in their background effects their behavior, so they can't be trusted. If they fit the definition of a friend completely in all other ways, be friends. Just do not confide in anyone, anything you do not want them to tell others. A secret can be one if no one knows it. The more people who know it, the less likely you can expect it to be kept a secret.





Think, talk with her, be logical instead of emotional about this, then decide if she is a friend or an aquaintence and make your decision,.
Reply:Don't you think that your friend was so worried about you, that she contacted your mom out of concern for your welfare? I think you are looking at your problem from the wrong end, your end only. If you wish to be furtive, (which you have admitted too already) about your sexuality you could be wrong in doing so, and your friend might not have agreed that you were doing the right thing! So, she contacted your mom out of concern for your well being! Think about it. Have a good day.
Reply:guess u've already solved your question. she has betrayed your friendship. you have to keep her at a distant because your secrets are not safe with her cos you don't know who else she might have told! just be civil with her and her daughter.
Reply:Don't call her your friend because she is no friend!!!!! You don't need people like that in your life dear!!!
Reply:I had a friend betray me, in an equally serious way. I forgave her, but never trusted her after that. Years later, she stabbed me in the back again. I would say that no one should be friends with someone they can't trust. Your friend has proved to you, that she is really no friend at all. When I decided to cut contact with my "friend" I also had to lose the relationship I had with her kids, who's lives I'd been a part of since their births. That was very hard to do, but I had to protect myself. Four years later, I don't regret the decision I made.
Reply:honestly you need to grow up. She probably agonized about the call to your mom but decided that risking your friendship was worth trying to help you. She was only putting your well being first. How much more can she love you? weather or not you two agree on the subject is just a sideline.