My boyfriend spends time with my ex-best friend & it really hurts b/c she completely betrayed me, What to do?

I was friends with this girl for years and she slept with the first guy I loved right after I left town. I found it in my heart to forgive her but she continued to display signs that she was untrustworthy and a disloyal friend. I ended the relationship with her. Now my boyfriend of 3 and a half years (not the one that slept with her) hangs out with her b/c his best friend and she became friends while she and I were still friends. It really upsets me that he hangs out with her when they were never friends and she hurt me so immensely. He just doesn't understand why I can't be friends with her, someone who hurt me in many ways. How do I make him understand why I can't spend time with her and why I wish he wouldn't either?

My boyfriend spends time with my ex-best friend %26amp; it really hurts b/c she completely betrayed me, What to do?
Who is he kidding that he can't understand this? You made it quite clear, I should think! Back off from him %26amp; tell him why. I hate to say it, but it looks like she could be setting you up again!


Men can be dumb about these things. Still, he ought to care enough about you to listen %26amp; he isn't.Too many men out there-get looking!
Reply:you avoid the both
Reply:Uhh, personally speaking...you need to tell him that this REALLY, REALLY bothers you...and WHY....you need to tell him every reason why you don't trust her any longer..and why you feel the feelings that you do, about him hanging out with her...she has "other agenda's up her sleeve" and you simply cannot trust her...if he needs to see her...it is HIS choice...however,,,it this keeps happening even after you have repeatedly told him...you have two choices...deal with this...(you are gonna have to become just very adult about this...,and or break it off with him...if you can't handle this...)





I made a major mistake...I stayed with a close friend even when my ex-boyfriend had a huge crush on my close friend...she and I went on a trip together to visit him..and he made passes at her,(longer story, trust me) and then, she "claimed he harrassed her...and put him off....) but, in reality...she also let him make the passes at her..and went for it..behind my back, all the while lying to me about the whole secret rondevous..between them...and she has always "claimed" that "all of my boyfriends have "come unto her!" Yeah, right!!! Give me a break, I am no longer that idiotic..to believe such bull! (You get tough, because this friend is probably trying to get in on your honey as well!!!) Be watchful!





Been there, done that!!
Reply:whatever you do, don't get angry with him about it. don't even ever mention it. instead, just try to spend as much time with him as possible, so naturally he would have less time to spend with her. don't try to convince him to not hang out with her anymore, that will just make him angry. instead, act as if you don't mind him spending time with this girl, but as i said before, be with him as much as possible so he can't spend as much time with her.
Reply:I think you just tell him what you have already, tell him the reasoning behind it, why you feel so hurt when he spends time with her. If he doesn't care enough about what his actions are doing to you, then I think you should seriously consider dropping him and moving on. You deserve someone who cares about your feelings, not someone who hears what you have to say and dismisses it and does whatever they want to, no matter how it makes you feel.
Reply:I reckon you should fill your man in on it so he understands you. When you do, he'll understand... after all, he loves you right?