My friend is in trouble. n im not able to help him. i cant c him sad like that, but im not able to help.?

my frend was in a serious relationship earlier but he had to leave his gf as he was going abroad for studies.n til date he gets upset when v talk about her. now after some time, he started liking a girl.n he told her n they became frends.now dat girl is leaving dat city for studying somewhere else.


my friend is now really upset. he is sad n i just dont understand wat to say.. cos he says sayin dat she was not meant for me n all doesnt take away d sad part.but i just cant c him sad.plz tel me wat shud i say to him dat he tries to move on quickly..he used to be a funny person,but these days..his smile doesnt reach his eyes. he is nt happy frm inside..i cant c my friend like dat..if anyone thinks they can help me out , then pls tel me.. cos i wan to help my friend.he is an awsome person n i just cant bear to see him upset.. ur help wil b appreciated.. he says its a passin phase..but i know its not..he wil nevr be able to forget her, lik he nevr forgot his 1st love..i really care for him.

My friend is in trouble. n im not able to help him. i cant c him sad like that, but im not able to help.?
time will cure everything u just do ur part better..
Reply:THINK you can listen to him but something he has to work though but be there for support
Reply:Well first of all your friend is so lucky to have a friend so caring like you, unfortunatley there isn't much you can do only time can heal broken heart, just try to occupy his time maybe take him out to play pool or to a movie or something to lift his spirits.
Reply:time is the great healer you saw him recover from his first love the same will happen here.
Reply:I have a friend and she went thru a similar situation. All you have to do is talkt o him, but make sure that he doesnt become a whinger who always feels sorry for himself. Get him to go out, do alot of fun stuff. Make him smile for real, that should be your first mission, once he does that even for a split moment, you're on the road to recovery with him.





I must say you're a great friend, one day he will appreciate this. Good luck!
Reply:ur frnd seems to b very sensitive...as he falls so easily and doesnt forget even for second time, it may happen very badly for the first time, its natural!!!!


Well thr is no real solution for it, u need to take him away frm those thoughts, mostly when a person feels like a user....but beware if ur frnd falls for u in all dis proceedings...u r done!! coz he is too sensitive!!


but whatever he is feeling is real, and not dreams, illusion sort of thing. One cant think of good days always!!
Reply:just be there. quit trying to "fix it" and don't feel like you always have to have something to say.





Your friend is going through a very real and rough life right now. The best thing you can do (the only thing you can really do) is just be there. Let them know they can come to you with anything (talking, sharing, a break from thinking of it all, a shoulder to lean on, a listening ear, etc.)





Whatever it is they need at the moment, let them know you're there to help them as best as you can. And then step back, be patient, and let THEM come to you.





Don't leave your friend's side by any means... but sometimes the biggest help someone can recieve from a friend during a time like this is to just have someone that can be there and not expect the world out of them or expect them to be "their old self again"... someone who can just be there, be a friend, and just listen if its needed and also just understand and be willing to give them time.





Take care and may God bless both you and your friend as well as the friendship you both share ((hugs))
Reply:Yes All what u can do for him.


Hugh him, so that he calms down be a good friend . take hime out to some where he 's never been say that the world is not over there is more time for things to happen. and so there are millions of good women out in the world waiting for him . take him out regularly so he forgets . be faraway from sadness..
Reply:eh el haifa dih! there are more serious problems in the world!
Reply:ther really is no telling people wat they shud and shudnt do...... i for example hasnt bn able 2 recover from a breakup and its bn almost two years and i havent dated any1 snce just b w/ him always and try not to make him feel alone, it lessens deppression... {but be carefull not to overdo it } for it can also make him feel too dependent and hopeless......