My friend is having an elective c section. why?

it's her first baby, she's 32, the baby weighs only 5 lb and she's due this week. i asked her why in an email and she chose not to respond. what are some reasons why one would want an elective c-section?

My friend is having an elective c section. why?
Nothing is wrong with that, don't knock it until you tried it. I prefer a c-section over vaginal because I don't know if I could have pushed my babies out like that.
Reply:well most doctors will not do an elective c section unless you go private and have lots of money to pay for it or maybe there is a good medical reason for it for instance if the woman has herpes then she can pass it off o the child so they will do one then incase the trama causes and outbreak and passes it on etc
Reply:Because she is a chicken sh**. That is so lame if you ask me, don't get pregnant if you can't handle giving birth.
Reply:sounds like she dont want to go through labor and that is the easy ticked out
Reply:You obviously have not been pregnant - or maybe yo had one of those easy no complication pregnancies...








I do not agree with elective c-sections (because it is a surgery) but if I could I would have elective inducement the day i turned 37 weeks ...








The last 2-3 months of being pregnant are hard as hell on the body, your tired, have heartburn , cant sleep, you get puffy hands and feet, it hurts to walk, roll over in bed, get in and out of bed, sit down or stand up - you look like a walking house, you feel like a cow, i feel sickly everyday - I'm tired, cranky, one minute i am hot the next i am freezing, i can pee every 20 minutes and that after holding it for 10 minutes and feeling like i am gonna pee my pants any second..my knees hurt, my hips hurt, my crotch hurts...every couple of hours I have my babies head bounce off of my cervix (which is very very very painful)





Who wouldn't want to have that over as soon as possible if they can...








Hope that helps
Reply:Elective C-sections are on the rise and why anyone chooses one is completely their own business. If your friend refuses to answer your question of why she is, then leave it alone. She may be too embarassed to tell you the true reason why she is taking this route for the delivery of her baby or she may think it a private matter that only she and and her doctor discussed. No matter the reason(s) just be happy for your friend that she is becoming a mother.
Reply:Maybe there is a medical reason and she is afraid and not telling everyone.


Don't be so quick to judge.


I have 15 year old twins and a 7 month old and I am pregnant again.


I chose to have a 2nd c-section instead of trying to deliver........and I am going to have a 3rd. It's my business - and it's your friends business too.
Reply:Umm..... I begged for a c-section the 2nd time around. First of all, anyone who wants to say women are crazy or stupid for wanting one have obviously never experienced the joy of having their 8 pound, 11 ounce baby's head stuck (you know where) for over two hours, pressing down on a nerve and causing pain like you wouldn't believe. Oh yes, I had an epidural but as it turns out, sometimes the epidural can make u hyper-sensitive. So, after two hours of the worst pain EVER I have the M.D. tell me if I don't push him out soon, they will need to use the vacuume. I was well informed and knew that it can cause brain damage, so hey!! new stress.


Then, when I finally did push him out (after 19 hours of labor, mind you and over two hours of strenous pushing) I had a pain so bad in my vagina that I had to sit on ice packs for weeks. It barely touched the pain, even with the Percocet.


Anyway - after that I began to lose control of my bowels. Yup - whenever they felt like it, they came. #2 was the biggest problem. I am 29 now, my son is 5 and I am in need of surgery to have my bladder tied up.


I loved my C-section and would do it again in a heartbeat!!!! The first was so traumatic!!


So, give her a break. Maybe she doesn't want you to know she craps herself........you never know.....
Reply:i dont know but i think they are crazy it takes longer to recover and its harder to get the stomach muscles back into shape
Reply:I dont know. I had a c-section but it medically necessary. I am surprised her doctor is allowing her to have a c-section if it is not medically necessary. The baby is very very small if he/she only weights 5 lbs and she is 40 weeks though.
Reply:it depends on whether the C-section is for maternal request or whether there is an actual medical reason, as the baby is small. Placental dysfuction, where the placenta is not functioning well %26amp; therefore the baby would become distrssed if labour was induced, gential herpes ( risk to baby being born naturally), breech position or other abnormal position. Don't keep harping at her for a reason, she may not know, ot want to discuss it with u.
Reply:Possible reasons are 1)Onset of pregnancy after long time of marriage 2)Fear that i will not conceive if pregnancy will lose this time 3)Listenings about the death/deaths of someone during normal delivery,especially of some relative or beloved one. 3) Risk of death of the baby due to conversion of normal delivery to emergency C-SECTION.
Reply:some do it to 'schedule' the birth at a convenient time. some don't want to get stretched out, if you know what i mean. with her, who knows.
Reply:Maybe its has to do with a personal medical reason she doesnt want to disclose to you. Im with you I would not elect to have a c-section.
Reply:Maybe she has some kind of STD...like herpes that could be transmitted to the baby when it's born naturally and she doesn't want to tell you that...it's delicate...


I understand you're probably concerned why would she want to do something like that...but there could be more than one reason why she's not saying it.


I am so AFRAID of the pain I have thought of a c section but I also have not had any surgeries EVER, so I don't want to damage my body like that, unless it's totally necessary.
Reply:She is probably too afraid of going through with labor and doesn't want to admit she is scared. She may have heard a horror story or two about those women who labor for 48 hours straight then have an emergency c because the baby or the mom is in danger. Who knows. Is she a close friend? I don't see why she wouldn't tell you if she was a good friend. I don't see what the big deal would be in admitting her fears. I think we were all scared at some point that we wouldn't be able to handle it. I am scared now and I have already gone natural for my first! lol Don't listen to the others who say its "her business" like you are being some busy-body. While it IS her business and her decision, you being pregnant are just trying to get as much information about delivering (maybe she knows of some risks that you don't know about).... Congratulations and good luck!
Reply:Fear of pain or the birth itself?
Reply:There are many medical reasons for this to be done, and if she doens't want to share this info with you, you should accept that. She's probably pretty stressed about it too. Maybe she'll tell you after the baby is born.
Reply:Maybe, there is something she is uncomfortable about wanting to share with you. It's her body and her choice, she will need your help after the surgery, just be a loving friend to her and be there for her.


My sister had 3 C_ sections, not by choice, her pelvis was shattered when she was 6, another friend who also was in her early 30's had one and got her tubes tied.


To each his own.


Just love her after all she's your friend.
Reply:She's probably just afraid of the actual birthing process, but she should know that C-Sections are much worse. It takes much longer to recover, and there's a lot more recovery pain. A lot of women completely lose feeling in that little bit where they cut. She may be afraid of *pardon me for saying this* losing vaginal elasticity...she might be afraid that sex won't feel the same.
Reply:if it's truly elective (for non medical reasons) the only reason to do it is convenience. maybe her partner is going out of town, maybe she wants the baby born a certain day.


i dunno. but it's not the smartest decision, imo. c-sections are VERY risky for the mom and risky to even the healthiest of babies.





"A cesarean section poses documented medical risks to the mother's health, including infections, hemorrhage, transfusion, injury to other organs, anesthesia complications, psychological complications, and a maternal mortality two to four times greater than that for a vaginal birth.


An elective cesarean section increases the risk to the infant of premature birth and respiratory distress syndrome, both of which are associated with multiple complications, intensive care and burdensome financial costs. Even mature babies, the absences of labor increases the risk of breathing problems and other complications.


Cesareans can delay the opportunity for early mother-newborn interaction, breastfeeding and the establishment of family bonds.


Cesarean sections are sometimes performed for other than maternal or fetal well-being, such as avoidance of patient pain, patient or provider convenience, provider legal concerns or provider financial incentives. "